This is not news to anyone, I am a grown adult that still gets affected by her parent's arguments and silence. My younger brother is very busy all the time and does get involved until after things are looking better. My oldest brother chooses to not let it bother him. He just keeps living. I wish I could make myself not care too. It sounds horrible and thankfully I have learned to let them figure out their small disagreements and not jumping in quickly to explain qhat the other person meant to say or their intentions to give them perspective. I am proud of myself for step back, but there are times when it gets hard, I worry. My mother is very prideful to the point that it's very rare for her to admit she was wrong or readjust her thinking. We (my brothers and I) have talked to her about her habit of going to defensive mode and not listening and we have told her that it is okay to admit you were mistaken, it would not diminish her character. But she is who she is. My ...
I know I am not the only person who gets hurt and tired of hearing their parents fight. I even know that my case is not the worst, and unfortunately, some children have it worse. I am not a child. I am a grown adult, but even to this day, sometimes I want to cry. I want to give you a brief history of my parents so that you can better understand them. My parents were around my age when they got together and had my older brother. My mother had to co-habit with her mother-in-law, who was very critical of her. My mother ended up earning my grandmother's respect and love, though. A lot of things happened to us when we were younger, and my mother became a strong savior for us. My father left the country to work, and we did not see him for 10 years. I was about 2-3 years old when he left, my memories were vague, and people change through hardships. That's what happened to my mother. She stopped being the shy country young girl and became a woman who h...